Wednesday, June 20, 2012

Don't Get Angry?

Yet another tenet of my karate training involves the idea is "Do not lose self-control or act in a violent manner."   Being that my work involves dealing with people, generally those in crisis, and just like everyone else, my outside-of-work-life is just chock full of stress, this is yet another difficult principle.  Taken literally, one could assume that you shouldn't get angry and "go off" on people, in the manner of a Jerry Springer guest.  While you should never pattern your actions after people on tabloid style talk shows, (and yes, people actually do take their cues from pop culture and act that way...even in court or the middle of Walmart), the root of this principle has little to do with BEING angry.

Violence is never a good idea.  (Well, duh...)  I have never seen a violent act turn out well for anyone.  Karate training means that one is learning techniques that could injure someone (or yes, even kill someone) using just our own hands, feet, elbows, etc.  We train, not be violent, but to learn to protect ourselves from the potentiality of violence.  We can only be responsible for ourselves, therefore, if someone else chooses to act violently, then we must counter their violence in order to avoid injury to ourselves.  Ok, that explains the second part of the principle, but what about the first part?

People have the general idea that being angry is a negative reaction.  Well, naturally if you are Dr. Bruce Banner, anger is always a bad thing, but for us individuals who don't have enormous green guys living inside of us who pop out after provocation, ripping up our clothes (Man, I really liked that shirt!), and smashing cars with our bare fists, anger does not have to be horrible.  Anger can actually serve as an impetus for change.  If I am angry enough at a situation or event, then maybe that is what spurs me to action in order to make things different.  Many successful protests against unfairness have resulted in changes in society, whether initiated at a sit-in or a peaceful protest.  Anger can also be "righteous indignation."  Now, the important part of this is that anger can be used to promote positive change.  If, indeed, positive change is not being promoted, then perhaps this anger is heading toward negative reaction.

Alright, so anger is okay, when used positively.  Even Jesus got angry at the money changers in the temple.  Self-control is an integral part of avoiding falling off the edge of the precipice.  If you are angry, you lose self control, and you, the karateka, knowing a great many, or even one or two, self defense or karate techniques, react REALLY negatively and harm someone, then you are wrong.  Self control is imposing the will on oneself, as opposed to imposing your will on someone else.  If you lose self control, then your reaction is likely to be violent.  As students of a martial art, we must be held to a higher standard.   To quote Stan Lee, "with great power comes great responsibility."  While we aren't Spiderman, knowing things that could hurt, or even kill, another human being imposes a responsibility to see that we do not use what we know against someone, particularly in anger.

So, number one, if you get angry, keep a lid on it.  Number two, don't be violent, even when you want to be.  And finally, number three, you aren't a super-hero, but you can still have a super-hero attitude.  (Just don't jump off any buildings because you think you can fly.)




1 comment:

  1. I like the Buddhist idea of recognizing and acknowledging anger as a natural part of us and then channeling its energy in a positive way.

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